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Technically Single

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Seriously? Okay, what would’ve been great just now is if the dot on the “eye” (i) of the title-words “technically single” above us had a cute little heart over it. But, that’s just how differently the mind can work when it comes to details, besides the creative graphics would not allow such sophistication on such a basic header. So, we’re moving on…

Ultimately, talking about how one is technically single, simply implies that life doesn’t end after divorce…right? The technicality is this; once someone has been married and then divorced, they technically possess more experience than the average single female out here trying to entice a man with her womanly-wilds on “FLEEK”-mode.  Nevermind, just forget it; it seems like instead of understanding, at the very best, you’re all just going to Laugh at My Pain (in my best Kevin Hart voice). Here’s the thing, looking this great and being at the 40 threshold is both a blessing and a curse.  Granted, youthful by design; (Suddenly, you hear the voice of mother teasing in the background saying…”Yes, I know, you’re FOREVER 21”) companionship doesn’t get any easier to find the older you become and especially when you’ve given your heart away once before. Mother never was a liar!

Listen up! You’d have to admit, any woman having been a daughter, mother, wife, student, sister, best friend, girlfriend, an ex… has had a wealth of lessons, a lifetime of hurt and happiness that the ordinary “single woman” simply has not yet sampled. You may as well say it’s almost like being overqualified to be “single”. So, exactly what does happen when one is overqualified for the single life? Can you say, D-E-N-I-E-D? Try being approached by eligible singles looking for an overnight scenario, quick romp, or to possibly string you along and pose as a lifetime partner, when in actuality they are just not interested in the long haul commitment. Nor mature enough to be dedicated to the intricate process of truly getting to know someone. Oh please, surely the male readers are sitting back boasting about now. Can’t you just imagine the little giggles going on inside of their brains saying “Maybe, QUITAR (1)that’s because you’ve never dated ME” ?Newsflash, we’re especially referring to you!

Now, we’re not getting off on any rants or gender- bashing or anything. However, there is still firm belief  there are some Great, GREAT men out there.